EPISODE 27 – How you can parent through a crisis (death, illness, divorce, suicide, murder…) with expert Barbara Coloroso

Last updated on June 3, 2020

Okay, let’s talk real for a minute…

You probably wish that you didn’t have to listen to an episode like this right? About a crisis or about something bad, most often unpredictable and ‘can’t go back in time’ to make it normal again. Well, that’s just bubbles and living in a dream because life is about living and about dying and about all the in-between events that will and can happen to you, your kids and in your community.

We need to make memories in the good times that our kids can fall back on in the bad times.

Barbara Coloroso

I believe that strength is also about being prepared…well as best as you can and that’s being mentally strong for all of it…the moments of sadness, grief and sickness and the happy moments as well. Adding that you’ve got kids is also a whole other level of potential anxiety and pressure. So this episode is not just important BUT VALUABLE FOR YOU parents and grandparents and mothers to be.

If you want to reduce as best as possible the anxiety and confusion well this episode will do it for you. Barbara Coloroso is a mother, now grandmother and has seen her share of crisis over the years from 2 of her daughters being diagnosed with cancer before graduating (don’t woryy they are well today) to the life changing trip where she was asked to help out and decided to bring her son in Rwanda. They helped genocide victims and families and quickly learned the meaning of human resilience & how we can be strong ourselves and that ‘You Will Get Through It Too!’

Don’t worry this conversation is not dark and tough, it actually surprised me how powerful, happy and loving moments of crisis calls us to become better and better for our friends and family.

Barbara Coloroso is an internationally recognized speaker & bestselling author of 4 books on topics such as parenting, teaching, school discipline, non-violent conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice. She’s a mother, grandmother and has been speaking about these topics for over 45 years. She’s an educational consultant for school districts, medical and business community, criminal justice system among others. She’s been featured on Oprah, CBS, CNN, ABC, NBC, New York Times, Times, Newsweek and many more! She currently lives in Colorado, United States.

You will hear her say a few times that …

Life Is Good,

Life Is Unfair,

Life Hurts,

We Should Know That’s Life.

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What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

0-7:10 Intro

8:25 this too will pass

9:35 The importance of the T.A.O. of Parenting 

14:10 Having humor through crisis

14:55 What type of humor is acceptable and which one is unacceptable!

26:30 The right kind of affection during difficult times

19:50 When to get back to the normal routine

20:40 The type of optimism needed during a crisis

21:20 Some warning signs for parents that more help and support is needed.

24:22 Being tuned in to what’s going on in our children’s lives.

24:30 How do you deal with a little adversity?

28:45 What’s the reality VS what’s the problem?

29:15 How humor & optimism became a BIG part of her life

30:20 Working in Rwanda with people from the 1994 genocide

31:35 How she helped her son through a crisis

35:35 When kids need their parents through a crisis

36:40 Grieving with little kids at home

37:00 Her mantra – Life Is Good, Life Is Unfair, Life Hurts

38:10 Her main concern as an educator is this….

39:43 The 3 basics things we need to do everyday.

43:50 The passages of grief are…. in 3 parts

49:25 How to tell your kids about the death of a loved one

53:05 What to do with kids before a funeral.

55:40 My ah ha moment!

58:35 What to say & NOT to say to someone going through a crisis

1:04:05 Common Mistakes Parents Do During A Crisis

1:05:10 Assertive Worrying

1:06:00 Where to find more about Barbara Coloroso & her books

1:08:12 The LAST question

Connect With Our Guest:

• Website
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• Instagram

Ressources Mentioned In This Episode:

Book- Parenting Through Crisis, Book- Kids Are Worth It!, Book- Just Because It’s Not Wrong Doesn’t Make It Right, Book – The Bullied, The Bully & The Bystander

• The Stephen Lewis Foundation

• In the News – Want to learn how to talk to your kids about racism then listen to episode 11

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